Learning hypnotherapy, weekend 5.1
This weekend isn't really hypnotherapy at all - it's all about NLP. That's not a bad thing though, NLP is really useful and I've already used some of the techniques to get rid of phobias. Today, we were covering the raport building side of NLP. Such as mirroring & matching and representational systems. Building rapport is pretty important for helping any clients coming to you for hypnotherapy feel comfortable, if they don't then you'll have a very hard time getting anywhere - no matter how good you may be at the hypnosis side of things.
It felt very odd mirroring & matching in the practice sessions when the other person knew that's what what I was doing. It feels fine during everyday life practicing this kind of thing, when the other person isn't looking out for it. But in this kind of environment it's difficult not to just start laughing when somebody is matching you in such an obvious way. It's all good practice though, but I'll definitely need to practice this kind of thing more often in the real world.
One of the most difficult things I found was matching representational systems with somebody else. I'm fine with visual or auditory (and I'm even OK with olfactory [smell] and gustatory [taste] as well), but when it comes to kinesthetic I'm just rubbish. So trying to hold a conversation mostly using the kinesthetic rep system is very difficult, but that's something else I want to get more practice with in the real world as well. I also have the same kind of difficulty when coming up with hypnotherapy scripts that use any of the rep systems other than visual and audio. Thankfully I am getting better though.
Update: I realized I never bothered to mention how we were supposed to work out what rep system somebody else is using in the first place when you want to match them. The way were doing it today was by paying attention to the language they used when talking about something. If somebody says "I don't see how that would work" then they're probably using a visual rep system, so you'll want to explain it in a more visual way if you can - such as drawing a picture. Similarly, if you're using diagrams and pictures to explain something, and somebody says "that still doesn't sound like it would work" then they're probably using an auditory rep system, so you would want to switch strategies to something that fits better for that person.
It felt very odd mirroring & matching in the practice sessions when the other person knew that's what what I was doing. It feels fine during everyday life practicing this kind of thing, when the other person isn't looking out for it. But in this kind of environment it's difficult not to just start laughing when somebody is matching you in such an obvious way. It's all good practice though, but I'll definitely need to practice this kind of thing more often in the real world.
One of the most difficult things I found was matching representational systems with somebody else. I'm fine with visual or auditory (and I'm even OK with olfactory [smell] and gustatory [taste] as well), but when it comes to kinesthetic I'm just rubbish. So trying to hold a conversation mostly using the kinesthetic rep system is very difficult, but that's something else I want to get more practice with in the real world as well. I also have the same kind of difficulty when coming up with hypnotherapy scripts that use any of the rep systems other than visual and audio. Thankfully I am getting better though.
Update: I realized I never bothered to mention how we were supposed to work out what rep system somebody else is using in the first place when you want to match them. The way were doing it today was by paying attention to the language they used when talking about something. If somebody says "I don't see how that would work" then they're probably using a visual rep system, so you'll want to explain it in a more visual way if you can - such as drawing a picture. Similarly, if you're using diagrams and pictures to explain something, and somebody says "that still doesn't sound like it would work" then they're probably using an auditory rep system, so you would want to switch strategies to something that fits better for that person.
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